Path: ultra.sonic.net!news From: tyagi@houseofkaos.abyss.com (nagasiva) Newsgroups: alt.magick.tantra,alt.magick.tyagi,talk.religion.newage,alt.paranormal Subject: Re: What is a Soul Mate? Date: 29 Dec 1998 21:01:43 -0800 Organization: Sonoma Interconnect,Santa Rosa,CA(us),http://www.sonic.net Lines: 48 Message-ID: <76cc3n$7fo@bolt.sonic.net> References: <36812378.0@news.cwnet.com> Reply-To: tyagi@houseofkaos.abyss.com NNTP-Posting-Host: bolt.sonic.net X-Newsreader: NN version 6.5.1 (NOV) Xref: ultra.sonic.net alt.magick.tantra:7474 alt.magick.tyagi:15051 talk.religion.newage:91697 alt.paranormal:108279 49981229 IIIom "Hasan Malik" : # What is a soulmate? Can anyone tell me? a soulmate is a partner whose psychospiritual make-up is ideally compatable such that it encourages the development of the individual in all ways conducive to their health and serves to bolster their weaknesses where they are in need. usually there is conflict and over-protective or stulted mates are paired, leading to conflict or deformity in one or both of the individuals. too often there is a kind of codependence (rather than interdependence) which makes one or both responsible for the limitations in their mate, rather than merely attending to these and navigating them. the fallacious notion of the 'soul' derives from a false dualism which includes the differentiation between the physical and spiritual 'worlds'. however, when seen for what they are, these will be understood as two facets of a single, object-subject experience, and the 'soul' is the entirety of the person and personality which grows from the birth of a human being if sufficiently nurtured. the romantic concept of the 'single soulmate' is without basis, there being no reason that any number of potential mates may have a high degree of psychospiritual compata- bility, though my experience is that truly mutually- satisfactory combinations are rare and hard to come by. the best means of ascertaining if someone is your soulmate is to spend a great deal of time with them. if you find that you are matched in taste and/or temperament then you can at least presume the potential of local compatability and if you have insight into yourself or the greater pattern of others then you may be able to predict with some degree of precision the likelihood of compability over the course of years (like looking at two trees and determining whether their future growth courses will conflict or coalesce). this latter skill is what has come to be called 'match-making'. nagasiva -- tyagi@houseofkaos.abyss.com (emailed replies may be posted); cc me replies; http://www.abyss.com/tokus; http://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatSPELLS.html