Path: typhoon.sonic.net!feed.news.sonic.net!news-out.cwix.com!newsfeed.cwix.com!news.maxwell.syr.edu!news.stealth.net!news-east.rr.com!news-west.rr.com!news.rr.com!news-west.rr.com!lsnws01.we.mediaone.net!cyclone-LA3.rr.com!typhoon.we.rr.com.POSTED!not-for-mail From: Ramakrishna Rao Newsgroups: alt.magick.tantra Subject: Re: Tantra help References: <3b41051f@turakina.six.asn.au> User-Agent: MT-NewsWatcher/3.1 (PPC) Message-ID: Lines: 73 Date: Tue, 03 Jul 2001 02:24:11 GMT NNTP-Posting-Host: 24.30.118.114 X-Complaints-To: abuse@mediaone.net X-Trace: typhoon.we.rr.com 994127051 24.30.118.114 (Mon, 02 Jul 2001 19:24:11 PDT) NNTP-Posting-Date: Mon, 02 Jul 2001 19:24:11 PDT Organization: Road Runner Xref: typhoon.sonic.net alt.magick.tantra:18509 In article <3b41051f@turakina.six.asn.au>, "Ulrich Wahl" wrote: > All i would like to know is how to either not ejactulate or to take longer > to ejactulate when having intercourse. > Thanks > > There are numerous ways to do this. You'll have to try them to see which work best for you. You may find that none of them are automatic and you will have to practice either by yourself or with your partner. 1) The M&J "Squeeze" technique. There is a time known as the moment of "ejaculatory inevitability." This is the point in arousal when your body simply will not let you stop having an orgasm. Practice (usually throught masturbation) going up to that point, but do not go past it. Often, this practice alone will help. However, the next step in the technique used by Masters and Johnson involves a partner. She (could also be done in a gay setting, but I'll describe the het version here) sits astride you (you are prone) and you have intercourse until you feel you are just about to reach the moment of ejaculatory inevitability. Let her know that, and she should come off you and tightly squeeze the penis between her thumb and fingers just below the "head" of the penis until the sensations are gone and your energy level recedes. Repeat. 2) The "Million Dollar Point." If you feel between your testicals and anus, the midway point will have a small indentation. This is the perineum. In oriental medicine it is known as the circulation-sex 1 point. The CS-1 point has been called the million dollar point because it will delay orgasm. In privacy, practice going up to the moment of ejaculatory inevitability. Immediately use two or three fingers to press "up" (toward the head" on the CS-1 point. Press firmly. The sensation of the moment will quickly pass. 3) The "Pull." When you reach that moment, use your thumb and first finger to make a circle around the scrotum. The fingers separate the testicals (below the ring) and the penis (above the fingers). And then... yank down firmly. Again, this should eliminate the physiological need to orgasm. 4) The "Cock Ring." Although sold in chrome (which you should NEVER use), the best versions of these are made of rubber or velcro. After you become erect, roll the rubber ring or attache the velcro loop around the base of the penis and behind the testicles. Some people use string or fishing line, but I cannot recommend it. The effect of this ring is that it prevents the blood from draining out of the penis, resulting in keeping the erection. 5) Breath and muscle control. For most people, as you approach orgasm, your respiration rate quickens and your muscles tense. Pay attention to your body. As your breath rate increases, consciously slow down. As your muscles tense, consciously allow them to relax. 6) "Kegels." (Pronounced "kay-gills) While this may take the longest time to master, it may be the best long-term solution. Simply put, it is an actual exercise to strengthen the muscles that give strong erections and ejaculations. The technique is simple. To learn it, the next time you urinate, use your muscles to cut off the flow. Do this several times. These are the muscles you need to exercise. You can do it any time. Simple flex those muscles. One technique is to flex them and then hold for several seconds before you release. Another method is to contract tightly and release quickly. Repeat these in sets. 7) I'm sure other people in this NG will give you some other valuable suggestions. RR