For many people, anal sex is the ultimate taboo. Buttfucking makes it
sound crude and dirty, sodomy sounds technical. In the 1990's, anal sex
has been given the bad rap because HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, is
most easily transmitted by anal intercourse.
One other part of the body that some people enjoy licking, or having licked, is the anus. The anus has half the nerve endings in the pelvic region and many people find touching it to be sexually arousing. Although we haven't mentioned safer sex yet as part of this series, we will here: the anus and rectum carry many diseases that live quite benignly in your lower digestive tract, but which can be harmful in your mouth or stomach. Performing anilingus is a very risky behavior for a variety of bacterial infections. Refer to the section on safer sex techniques for ways to protect yourself if you or your partner enjoys this activity.
Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life. However, some people may never like it, and if your lover is one of those people, respect their limits. Don't force the idea upon them.
The pleasure of anal sex is derived from many things. Doing something "nasty" appeals to many people, especially about sex. Doing something different to spice up a sex life that has become something of a bore can be part of it. And the physical sensations available during anal sex are uniquely different from anything else. The rectum is lined with nerve endings, some of which signal the brain to 'reward' you with good feelings when stimulated. For men, the prostate gland can be a source of powerful pleasure. And for a thrusting penis, the ring of the anus can be a new and strong sensation to enjoy.
The most important pieces of advice anyone can give on anal sex are:
lubricants, condoms, and patience. The most commonly available lubricant
is KY-Jelly, a greaseless, odorless substance available at most drug stores.
Better lubricants include Astroglide, ID, Wet, or ForePlay, some of which
are available at better drug stores, and most of which are available in
some form at adult toy stores.
Even if you're sure that both you and your partner are disease- free, you should still use a condom. The rectum is home to lots of infectious bacteria that can cause burning and urethritis of the penis. It will also help you clean up afterwards.
Anal sex should not be messy. Most first-timers fear that it will be, but most people can tell when they have to go. A condom will help with cleanup, of course, and if you're really concerned, a commercial enema, like Fleet, will help beforehand.
Patience is the third and final thing you need to make anal sex possible.
Initial penetration is always the most difficult part of anal sex-- the
anus is a tight ring of flesh at the opening of the rectum designed to
control the elimination of bodily waste. It is partially under voluntary
control, and partially reflexive to stimulation. Your partner has to relax,
and you have to go slow to coax it into opening enough to recieve your
For actual intercourse, picking a position can be important. Many women
want to be on top, to regulate how fast penetration occurs. Other like
to lie on their stomachs, or crouch doggy-style, or to be penetrated while
lying on their sides. Choose what's best before you start.
It is not technically possible to get pregnant from anal sex; there
is no way for semen to get from the rectal tract to the vaginal tract.
You may find that anal sex just isn't for you. That's fine. Nothing says that you have to indulge in something that doesn't make you feel good.Elf Sternberg <email@example.com>
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