CUNNILINGUS: ORAL SEX FOR WOMEN
What is cunnilingus?
Cunnilingus is the fine art of making love to a vulva and vagina with your mouth
and tongue. It is a delicate skill, requiring patience, practice, and dedication
to get it right, but any woman you learn to do it right for will appreciate
you all the more for it.
What applies to the penis applies to
the vulva -- every one is different, requiring a different touch to make
its owner happy. But few tools can equal the tongue for the amount of pleasure
it can deliver to a happy vagina.
This article assumes that you know
what a vulva looks like and can identify with some precision the mons veneris,
labia majora, clitoral hood, clitoris, crura, labia minora, urethra, vagina, and
perineum, to name them (approximately) from top to bottom. If you are
unsure, first read to the section on
female sexual anatomy.
How fast should I go?
This isn't an attack. Don't go after the clitoris like a fireman attacking
a fire. Quite often at first, the clitoral glans is far too sensitive for direct
stimulation. Lick around it, stimulating the hood and the crura, teasing her inner labia,
tasting her. Take your time and listen to her. Some women make noise,
and some do not. It will be a while before you learn exactly what your
lover prefers as far as oral sex is concerned.
Some women may like additional stimulation--
a finger or two into the vagina, or perhaps even the anus. She may want
your hands to reach up and play with her breasts, or she may want your
fingers to hold her labia apart so that your tongue can get at her vulva
As a woman nears her climax, she may
want more direct stimulation. In general, fast, rhythmic stimulation is
most effective at causing climax -- but there shouldn't be a rush to get
there. Take your time and learn to appreciate what you can do for her.
I've heard cunnilingus doesn't taste good.
If the taste or smell bothers you or is a concern, ask her to wash first.
Most people who enjoy cunnilingus agree that a clean vagina is a good,
if acquired, taste.
What about cunnilingus during menstruation?
Some people are particularly turned off at the suggestion of cunnilingus
during menstruation. If it is a concern to you, then wait. A tampon may
well hold the blood back, as will a diaphragm, but some men can't stand
the taste anyway. If your partner is healthy, however, there is no particular
danger in menstrual blood, and some women find that orgasms during their
periods allievate cramps or are more intensely satisfying than at other
times during their cycle.
Elf Sternberg <email@example.com>
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