In May of 2000, an now-anonymized person wrote to me:
Any spells to increase a female libido?Since your name was a female name, i might wonder if your libido is the one which you wish to increase. Of course, you may be a lesbian and seek to increase the libido of your female partner. Or, less likely, but still possible, you may be lying about your gender via the pseudonymous nature of email and thus you may be a man asking how to increase the libido of your female partner.
But...in any case, here is my reply:
First, before giving my opinion about spell-work, i need to make a qualifying statement about my beliefs. Libido is one of those bodily functions i think is genetically determined to a large degree -- and thus i believe that although magic may ameliorate a situation, it cannot perform a sure-fire miracle-cure type reversal of nature. In my opinion, because the libido of the individual is mediated by hormonal interactions and because the nature of these interactions is becoming more widely known as scientific research into it continues, i believe that biological considerations should be given weight EQUAL in importance with any magical, spiritual, or occult considerations in performing this spell.
So, first, let us study the subject from a medical an social standpoint. Your approach to the spell-work, and the results you may enjoy from it, will depend a great deal on the underlying medical and social conditions operative in your life.
You have given me no clues as to why the libido of an unknown female is to be increased. For your pleasure, i presume -- but are you the insufficiently libidinous woman, or is your female partner not as enthusiastic as you wish her to be? And what do you mean by "libido" -- the urge to have sex (to initiate sexual contact), or the ability to have a contractive orgasm as a result of sexual activity?
Inability to reach orgasm is sometimes blamed on a lack of libido, but lack of libido is not the specific cause of anorgasmia in most cases. Therefore i shall assume that by "libido" you mean "the urge to have sex."
Estrogen makes women receptive to sex, but in order to wish to initiate sexual contact a high level of testosterone is necessary. Estrogen and testosterone tend to oppose each other's effects. Men manufacture more testosterone than they do estrogen, and vice versa, but each gender produces BOTH hormones.
Most women's output of testosterone is masked during the greater part of their menstrual cycle by their high estrogen levels, but when their estrogen levels drop, right before they get their periods, the testosterone that they do produce is unopposed and they then become very libidinous, sometimes demanding sexual gratification at the beginning and during their menstrual period. After the period is over, when estrogen levels start to rise again, they are less likely to try to initiate sexual contact, but they may be receptive to it, just the same.
Men and women who understand the fluctuation of hormone levels in women are more inclined to become happily adjusted to each other's libidinal impulses. There may be no perceived need to change any aspect of the female libido (for instance, to try to make its fluctuations conform to male standards of uniformity of level), but rather a celebration of its ups and downs.
Okay, but you do want a change -- you want to know how to increase a female libido. Still sticking to biological, medical, and social avenues of thought -- if it is you yourself who has the insufficient libido, my next question would be, "since when?"
Have you always been this way compared to your partner or to friends of your gender who are in your general age and weight range? If so, i recommend a thorough medical examination -- you may have insufficient hormonal resources, for instance, or you may have a hidden medical condition that interferes with the development of libido. Metabolic disorders and other chronic illnesses can include loss of libido among their many symptoms.
If you have always been a person with low libido and there is no medical cause, i would next suggest that your best course of action would be to find a partner whose libido level is compatible with yours. Males and females both show great variation in the frequency and intensity of sexual contact they desire. There is a man to match every women who wants one, and vice versa.
On the other hand, if you once had more libido than you do now, it would help to know if there was a distinct onset of the loss of libido or if it occurred gradually. Did you start taking birth control pills, for instance, or are you going through menopause, or have you suffered a grave illness or had abdominal surgery recently? Are you mentally healthy at the present time or are you depressed? Has your mate been unfaithful and destroyed your trust? How is your weight? Your blood pressure? Are you addicted to any drugs or to alcohol? Are you pregnant or nursing?
Examine the factors of health and lifestyle that surrounded the onset of your loss of libido. Identifying them can help correct the problem. Remediation of hormonal imbalances -- getting off birth control pills, for instance, or taking hormone supplements -- should be done under a doctor's supervision. If your doctor is not satisfactory, consult an endocrinologist. If your mate is not suitable, you may need a divorce.
Okay, now i shall presume that you have taken appropriate steps medically, socially, and legally, and not merely read through what i wrote above. Next comes the magical work:
The astrological aspects of libido parallel the medical ones. Just as estrogen makes a woman receptive to sex, Venus rules love, and just as testosterone mediates the impulse to initiate sexual contact, so does Mars controls action.
Check your horoscope. What relationship is there between Venus and Mars on your natal chart? How do transits and progressions affect this relationship? If there is NO aspect between the two, how are they each situated with respect to sign, house, dignity, and aspects to other planets?
I, for one, would not attempt to prescribe a magical spell dealing with a person's libido until i had done a horoscopic analysis first. I say this from decades of experience: the Venus / Mars aspects are amazingly sure pointers to the sexual dimensions of human life.
Let me use myself as an example: I have Venus conjunct Mars in Aries in the 11th house, sextile to Uranus which is in the first house conjunct the Ascendent in Gemini. Look at my Sacred Sex web site -- you will find tons of stuff about penis-in-vagina intercourse (Venus conjunct Mars), frankly and openly presented (Aries) in a scientific attempt to help humanity (11th House), displaying oblivious disregard to the eccentricity (Uranus) or the personal appearance (conjunct Ascendent) of the writer (Gemini), myself (1st house).
Your chart will reveal similar things about your sexuality. From that chart i would then construct a magical rite that might emphasize certain favourable aspects of your horoscope or counteract others that were unfavourable. For instance, if your Saturn were conjunct your Venus, i'd suggest that you deal with issues of patriarchal society or your own father in order to free your love-life and allow it to blossom, but if your Mars was afflicted by your Saturn, i would recommend medical investigation into an overall lack of vitality that might be holding you down.
Oh. You wanted a spell to increase a female libido. Sorry -- i am giving you a two hour consultation here, and trying to educate you into an entire system of biological-medical-astrological-magical thought. No time for more of that now. Here's a spell which falls into the large class of rootwork that makes use of bodily fuids for magical purposes:
Be free of drugs, alcohol, and/or birth control pills for three months. Bring your weight and blood pressure within optimal range.
Sew or buy a red dress, preferably loose-fitting and made of soft, luxurious-feeling cloth. A sarong will be sufficient.
Have at hand special treat foods which require no cooking (e.g. fruit juices, fancy herbed bread, soft cheeses, duck liver pate, fresh fruit, a platter of sushi, fruit tarts, chocolates, baklava, or whatever you would like most). You may also have intoxicants to hand, in moderate amount.
Pick and dry (or buy) a handful of red and pink rose petals and acquire two roots -- a John the Conqueror Root (male, testosterone, Mars), and a Queen Elizabeth Root (female, estrogen, Venus).
Buy or make a large red candle -- it can be a female image candle or a plain one; it should be capable of burning for at least 6 hours. If you like to use incense, acquire Dragon's Blood Resin, which you may mix with other resin incenses such as Copal Oro or Frankincense. You will need charcoal disks to burn it on.
Finally, you will need a rectangular red flannel mojo bag with a drawstring. You can sew this yourself or buy one ready made.
Wait until the day you expect your period to begin. (If this cannot be predicted, seek medical advice to correct possible hormonal problems first.) If you prepare ahead, you can hold everything in readiness until you do get your period. If you have a job for that day, call in sick. If you have a steady sex partner, have him call in sick too.
Depending on whether having sex in the morning is your preferred time or if you are ready at any time of day, you may get up at dawn on the day that you expect your period or begin the spell as soon as you first get cramps, but before you start to bleed.
Bath in water scented with Love Me herbal Anointing Oil or Love Me mineral salt Bath Crystals. Dress in the red dress, with no underwear. Wear jewelry with red stones (blood coral is best). If you begin to bleed during the course of the day, you may bleed all over the red dress, or take it off and perform the remainder of the spell naked. Be sure to wear no tampons or pads that will inhibit your bleeding.
Carve the nature of your desire for increased libido, in your own words, on the candle with a needle. Dress the candle with Commanding Oil (a.k.a. Commanding Power a.k.a. Power Oil). Dress the John the Conqueror Root with Commanding Oil and the Queen Elizabeth Root with Follow Me Boy Oil. Place the two roots and the scattered rose petals at the base of the candle. Speak aloud your prayer or desire for increased libido, calling upon the deity of your choice and watching the candle flame.
When your period starts or as your cramps increase in intensity, light some incense, then begin sexual stimulation, either solo or with your partner. The entire time you engage in this, keep in mind how much you want to feel like this ALWAYS. Do not achieve orgasm at once, but bring yourself close as many times as you wish, stopping between times for fruit juices and light snacks. (Alternating sour fruit juices, meats, intoxicants, fruits, and sweets increases my energy for repeated sexual arousals, and many other people find this a useful technique as well.)
You do not need to be sexually aroused continually, nor need you keep incense burning continually. Have your partner stroke you and pet you all over your body, not just genitally. If you are solo, do the same for yourself. When you have had enough -- say after three to six hours of repeated sexual, tactile, olfactory, and gustatory stimulation -- you should have gotten your period and then you can just wail away and come as hard as you want for as long as you like. If you had no Dragon's Blood incense burning earlier, you may wish it at that time.
Rest a moment, thank your partner (if you had one) and deity for helping you achieve great sexual pleasure, then arise and bathe in water to which Florida Water or Blessing Oil has been added. Dress in fresh clothes or remain naked. Collect the rose petals, Queen Elizabeth Root, and John the Conqueror Root from beside the candle and place them in the red mojo bag. Fix the bag with Love Me Oil and Blessing Oil and smoke it in Dragon's Blood incense smoke. Put the mojo bag beneath your bed. Let the red candle burn out naturally.
Perform this spell once a month for about ten years. Be sure to always thank your deity for the blessing.
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