THE ALT.SEX FAQ:
A USER'S MANUAL
This edition of the alt.sex FAQ was written in the early part
of 1994 by the last Alt.sex FAQ Committee. It reflects the
best wisdom and knowledge of all the participants on
the committee at that time.
In theory, there are no policies and guidelines for using alt.sex.
It is an unmoderated alt group, and therefore nobody exerts
any control at all over it. It exists at the whim of the people who
post to it.
Since those days, however, alt.sex has been overrun by
advertising spam of such unbelievable volume that nobody asks
questions anymore. There are no "frequently asked questions"
on the newsgroup and maintaining an FAQ for it, especially
one of the considerable quality found here, is simply not
worthwhile or even honest.
Consider this a historical document. It reflects
alt.sex as it existed in its finest, most golden years.
Some sections will never be out of date; it's hard to imagine
good advice on oral sex or virginity or even buying a great sex
toy ever going out of style. Anatomy doesn't change although
our understanding of it might. Some sections, however, may
become out of date; the sections on Sexually Transmitted
Diseases, Legal Issues, even Terms and Acronyms will in time fall
far behind the times.
Alt.sex will only remain a reasonably "civil" place if you want it
to. Sexuality is always a touchy subject, and when someone wishes to
discuss their own sexuality, please do not immediately flame them if
their tastes don't match yours. Do as Emily Postnews recommends:
stand up, take a deep breath, and relax. If you must reply, consider
using the mail first.
There has always been some debate as to whether or not posting
stories on alt.sex is appropriate. Prior to the creation of
alt.sex.stories, alt.sex was the only place find and post erotica.
There are two camps of thought: one, that alt.sex.stories is a place
for people who are looking only for stories, but that posting them to
alt.sex is fine, and two, that alt.sex.stories is intended to remove
all stories from alt.sex.
Alt.sex is a general-purpose newsgroup for sexual discussion.
Posting of stories isn't disallowed, although you may encounter strong
discouragment from some quarters if you do.
Don't. Just don't. Unlike stories, pornographic pictures are
strictly forbidden from alt.sex. There are newsgroups appropriate to
the posting of binaries, including the alt.pictures.binaries.erotica
newsgroups. The reasons are simple: Although a picture may tell a
thousand words, even using JPEG they take up a lot more disk space.
So don't. If you insist on posting pictures to alt.sex, odds are the
volume of complaint mail to your sysadmin will reach deafening
proportions, and in the meantime you may well encourage some sysadmins
to remove a newsgroup they're already uncomfortable with.
That said, there are some images permitted even here. In the era
of the Information Superhighway, small images (less than 320x200
pixels, for example) of contraceptive devices and other objects will
go a long way towards eradicating the well-meaning but still crude
attempts of ASCII artists. Future editions of the FAQ will include
small B&W GIFS of a condom, diaphragm, sponge, female condom, and
related materials, barring any major objections.
Probably the most common complaints heard on alt.sex are: From
men: "There aren't enough women on here!" From women: "Every time I
post, I get a ton of email from clueless net geeks looking to get
laid!" We hope you see the connection. The 'Wannafuck' (as in "Your
post sounded really hot. Wanna get together and fuck?") seems to be
endemic to alt.sex.
Before you write any email, think about what you're going to
say. Don't say something you wouldn't say in person. Just because a
woman admits she likes sex doesn't mean she wants to have it with you,
and you shouldn't assume otherwise. Making alt.sex a safe place for
men and women should be a top priority of anyone who wants to talk
about sex in an honest and open manner.
First of all, look for it in alt.sex, news.answers, alt.answers
If you can't find it there, you can find the (hopefully) latest
version via ftp at:
If you can't do or don't know about ftp: there's also a mail
server on that machine. Just send an e-mail message to:
containing the word "help" in the body of the
The alt.sex FAQ is also available via the WWW at the
If you are just looking for stories in general, check the
newsgroups alt.sex.stories and rec.arts.erotica FIRST. Many stories
are also cross-posted to alt.sex.
As for story archives, well, there used to be a few.
Unfortunately, due to misuse by people, they are no longer around. In
this section we used to mention a couple but they both shut down for
the same reasons: irresponsible, immature, and greedy users over-used
their services. When people misuse a service offered to them that
service generally shuts down.
Therefore, there are currently no known ftp sites for stories or
rec.arts.erotica. If any site ever dares to try to set up a ftp story
archive again people should definitely learn to respect the system
that is offering the archive and respect the wishes of the archive's
There is a mail-server for alt.sex.bondage and alt.sex.stories
right now, but that service won't last long if it is misused. Don't
try to get the whole archive in one night!
The easiest way to use the mail-server is to read the rest of this
section and then send email to email@example.com with the word
help as the first and only word in the body of the message and no
subject. Scanning the subject line will be discontinued.
The server administrator is currently over a year behind in moving
stories into the server. He is (or will be) including alt.sex.bondage,
alt.sex.stories, and rec.arts.erotica. He is archiving stories and
articles that he believes to be of general interest.
Anonymous ftp is not available to this machine and is NOT planned.
If you have any questions or problems with the server, send email to
firstname.lastname@example.org. If you have trouble getting email to
that address, try email@example.com.
Privacy/system logs: The server logs all incoming requests and all
responses. This information is retained for a few days before being
deleted. I normally check the logs at least once a day to try and find
any server bugs/problems as early as possible. I don't care who you
are or where you are unless you are extremely greedy in accessing the
The newsgroups of the alt.binaries.pictures.* (like a.b.p.erotica)
are your best bet for X- and R-rated GIFs and binary pictures in other
formats. For pictures more along the line of swimsuit models, check
out wuarchive.wustl.edu via anonymous FTP, in graphics/gif. The images
are arranged alphabetically. Don't abuse the ftp service or it won't
be here next month.
Also in alt.binaries.pictures.erotica are often binary movies in
various formats. Read the alt.binaries.pictures.* FAQs for more info.
Due to the nature of Usenet, most pictures come in an UUENCODED format
as well, and how to decode such pictures is also covered in the
There is also a list of BBS' containing adult GIF files. The
list is posted to alt.bbs.lists and alt.sex periodically. There are
several hundred BBS' listed.
"Purity tests" are various text documents floating about the
Internet intended to test how pure and innocent, or conversly, how
feelthy-minded and perverse, you are. There are many versions, and
this FAQ used to list all of them. However, with the growth of
Internet resources it's become impossible to track them, and the FAQ
can only recommend that you read a few of them and enjoy them.
If you have access to FTP, Gopher, or the World Wide Web,
the purity tests can be found at the following location:
The editor of the FAQ personally prefers the 500 question
Yale/Dartmouth Purity Test as being the most comprehensive without
being too repetitive. No one purity test can cover everything or
Signature codes are those funny strings of characters
frequently found in people's Usenet .sigs which look sort-of like a PGP
code gone berserk. There are several "codes," the most popular of which
are listed below.
Elf Sternberg <firstname.lastname@example.org>
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