FELLATIO: ORAL SEX FOR MEN
Fellatio, giving head, giving a blow-job: Many men love this kind of
stimulation, and many people, both women and men, like giving it. Fellatio
is the act of applying your lips to a man's penis with the purpose of giving
If the smell isn't something you enjoy, then tell him to go take a shower! While this is something you're doing primarily for his pleasure, that doesn't mean you have to suffer if he's lacking in hygiene! And if you're worried about germs, your mouth has millions more germs than a clean penis.
Deep throating is the act of taking the penis down past your gag reflex. In reality, this particular sexual adventure is very overrated. The best way to give fellatio is still with the lips and tongue, taking only as much as you can without gagging. However, for those that want to know, the basic lesson is still "practice." Take the penis as far as you can without choking, and then close your eyes and concentrate, taking each quarter inch, telling yourself that you won't choke, that you can take it out at any time, and slowly swallow it down. Then rise off of it just as slowly.
Every penis is different, and each has its sensitive spots and its preferred ways of being handled. Generally, the corona and frenulum are more sensitive than the base of the shaft of the penis. Listen to your lover. The sounds he makes and the feel of his body tensing are your best clues that you're going this right. Don't be afraid to ask him for specific spots to lick, kiss, or suck -- each man has his own preferences.
Feel free to grasp with your hands whatever of the penis you can't fit into your mouth. As you slide your mouth off the penis, following behind with the hand allows you to linger on the corona longer and with a slightly diffeent sort of pressure. Many men like as much stimulation as possible, and the feel of a wet mouth and a saliva-slicked hand are enough to send them to the brink of orgasm very quickly. Some men like the feel of a hand gently "hugging" their scrotum; some like to be gently stroked with a wet finger down the length of the perineum. Some men may like the additional stimulation of a finger or two in the anus.
Some people feel that the best position to perform oral sex is the 69 position, where each partner lies with their head by the other's genitals. For fellatio, this even makes sense -- most penises curve upwards, towards the head, and in this position that curve matches the curve of the throat. However, it is difficult to both perform and appreciate oral sex at the same time. Try the position, or kneel by his body, but at least in the beginning do one thing at a time.
Which brings us to a sensitive issue: swallowing ejaculate. For many men, this is important to them -- they like to feel that by swallowing their semen, you complete this act of lovemaking and accept a part of themselves into your body. But many people don't like the taste of semen and can't bring themselves. Talk about this beforehand -- let him know if you can't handle it, and that it's not personal.
Macrobiotic nutritionists have actually done research on this question,
and the answer is in: you are what you eat. Common sense dictates that
if you taste good, your lover will want to eat you more often, so improving
your body's taste and smell should be important to you.
The question of semen content arises especially among persons who regularly
swallow semen, as in fellatio, and who are concerned about calorie intake
and nutritional substances. The average ejaculate contains aboutonia, ascorbic
acid, blood-group antigens, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, choline, citric
acid, creatine, deoxyribonucleic acid (DNA), fructose, glutathione, hyaluronidase,
inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium, purine,
pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine, spermine, urea,
uric acid, vitamin B12, and zinc.
A last word.
There is only one true way to do fellatio, and that's with enthusiasm. You have to love what you're doing to him, either because you love him or you love sucking cock. Loving both is best! Faked orgasms have nothing on lackluster fellatio.
Elf Sternberg <firstname.lastname@example.org>
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